Going through a divorce isn’t something you thought would happen in your life. You always felt like you and your spouse would get along well and be dedicated to one another for life.

Unfortunately, the truth was that your marriage wasn’t built to last. As a result, you’re now dealing with a divorce and worried about how to discuss it with your children. With kids in their early elementary school years, it’s hard to imagine how to describe what is going on. Fortunately, there are some tips that can help.

  1. Remember to be a guiding force

The first thing to do is to provide guidance to your children with your own actions. For example, you will want to show them that you’re still respectful to your estranged spouse and not having conflicts that play out in front of the kids. Show your children that there is a good way to respond to conflict or things you don’t like so they can learn how by seeing you in action.

  1. Be willing to listen

Another thing to remember is that young children may have a hard time expressing themselves. You should set aside time to listen to them and what they have to say about your separation and divorce. Be prepared to help them express their emotions, since they may not yet understand all of what they’re feeling.

  1. Make sure they know what to expect

One of the things that can help your child most is knowing what to expect. Talk to them about where they’ll live, when they’ll see you and the other parent and other questions they have.

This is a difficult situation for anyone, but for children who aren’t sure how to express themselves and who have little control, it can be devastating. Make sure you’re listening, explaining and guiding your children through this difficult time.